When I look back over the past several years of my life, it seems like every fourth quarter, especially October and November, is marked by immense upheaval. And this year is no different. And normally my reaction is to actively resist whatever changes are taking place…even though it all ends up being for the better. So this year, I’ve decided to take a different approach: Surrender. Accept. Cooperate.
Revolutionary, right? 
But it has made all the difference. Instead of adding to my stress level by working against the natural progression of my life, I am cooperating with all the changes taking place, accepting them, welcoming them even. And the result is that the transformation process is actually pleasurable and fun.
I’ve been in self-pampering mode, indulging myself in pleasurable activities – pedicures, girls nights out, steam baths, good books and lots of naps – and can I just tell you, I feel fabulous.
I have also been practising the art of saying no and taking time for myself when I need to. One of the lessons you learn as you grow older is that it is cool, and absolutely necessary, to be true to yourself and your evolutionary process. And a part of my process involves spending time alone to get centered and clear as to what my next step will be.
Every time I find myself wavering from my path and succumbing to too many demands, I read this poem that my sister wrote for me several years ago. It’s my reminder to always honor myself and my creative and transformational journey by placing my needs first.
Butterfly (for Lisa)
When you crawl into your hole
It’s not to hide
But a necessary part
Of your becoming.
Not every transformation
Takes place
In the pitiless glare
Of others’ expectations.
Rest and contemplation
May also feed
That creative spirit
To force the radiant colours
Out of that caterpillar’s
Cocoon.
© Sharon Hurley Hall 2007
